Gender Reveal Fail
Updated: Nov 5, 2020
How we thought we were having a boy, but turns out we were wrong!
What happened + our pregnancy journey up until now.
Many of you saw our original gender reveal we had with our family. We announced that we were having a second baby boy!
The Gender Test
For some reason I thought it would be a good idea to do an at home gender blood test. I HATE getting my blood drawn, so I’m not sure why I decided to find out early. I honestly thought it would be just a prick, with a small amount of blood. In reality, it was quite a bit. I used the Sneak Peek test. Do not recommend LOL
I really wished I would have filmed it, because I was a mess.
They give you a small brush to clean your nails and alcohol pads. I followed all the directions closely, but lets just say hand soap probably does not get rid of DNA. I live with two boys (husband and son) so it is likely I have lots of male DNA around me.
I did one prick and didn’t get enough blood, I was sweating and about to pass out. I had to lay down for a couple of minutes. Next, I went to the fridge and got a drink because I wasn’t sure if I was going to make it HAHA! I washed my hands again, then did a second prick and squeezed out more blood until I got enough.
Sent it off, and it came back - BOY!
This is where I am going to get very honest.
I was pretty much devastated. I know that sounds terrible, but I have always wanted a girl. I knew this was a girl. I prayed for a girl. My husband thought it was a girl. How could it be a boy?
Last Summer I had a miscarriage - We were supposed to have a baby this March 2020. I was a little mad at God, but He gave me the realization during this pandemic that there was no way I could have been pregnant right when all this mess started. I would have been freaking out for so many reasons. It probably wouldn't have been good for the baby. I thought; YEP, God! You know what you are doing. I don’t know what you have planned, but I know you will give us something better.
I have always prayed for a girl. I have had a girl name picked out since 7th grade (probably not going to use it lol). I vividly remember in Sunday School when I was in Junior High we talked about prayer, and how God gives us the desires of our hearts if we just ask. The teacher specifically said, if you want children - pray for them now! Remember, I was in Junior High. It seemed weird then, but I have prayed about it ever since. When we had our son I really didn’t have a preference, I just wanted a healthy baby (It took us 8 months to get pregnant with him). I was so happy, and I guess I just knew God would give me what I desired or what was best for our family when the time was right.
So currently, this is my third pregnancy and I have one living son.
A few weeks went by and it was time for a routine Quad Screen at one of my prenatal appointments. One week later I got a call that I had an abnormal marker for down syndrome. I had to come in immediately to get a more thorough test to see if the baby had down syndrome and/or what type. The nurses were quiet, not much explanation. Anxiety and fear started to set it. Would we lose another baby? I began to pray constantly, and read my bible. My grandmother helped me so much by sending me this verse.
Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. -Philippians 4:6-7
I broke down each line as I prayed and read it over and over. I found myself not only “requesting” a false down syndrome result and a normal report, but also for a girl. Then I would stop myself, why would I even think this? It’s a boy!
A few days passed, and I DID want a healthy boy or even a special needs boy. I started to get excited about how I wanted to decorate his nursery. My husband was so supportive and felt the same way. Whatever the outcome, he would be ours.
I was supposed to get the test results back in 7-10 days. 7 days passed, 10 days passed, more and more praying happened. But I was finally feeling peace. Day 12 they called with my results.
Everything was normal! PRAISE THE LORD! Oh, and one more thing.
The genetic test revealed the baby was FEMALE!
WHAT IN THE WORLD!? I was in complete shock! I asked if the lady on the phone was sure.
I had contaminated the test with male DNA. My doctor told me that even male dogs can affect this sort of test. We have two male dogs. So who really knows, but what I do know is: God is so good and does give us what we want, and when it is best.
Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give you the desires of thy heart.
*Oh and funny story, my 3 year old said it was a girl from the very beginning. Every time we asked what he thought it was he would say, girl! When I told him he was right, there really is a girl in mama’s belly! He said, “I told you that!”
It's a girl!!
The Bailee Ann - Texas Blogger